Monday, July 12, 2010

Writing From a Male Point of View

Guest post by L. Diane Wolfe

This involved some research. I read dozens of relationship books, seeking to comprehend the distinct qualities of the male gender. The books that provided me with the most insight were Men Are From Mars, Women From Venus and the Connecting With Your Husband/Wife series. Men and women really do view the world through different eyes!

Some key points I had to consider while writing from my male character's POV:

- Men are not detail-oriented, at least not in the area of observation. They are focused on the big picture. When a man walks into a room, it's doubtful he will notice the pattern on the couch or the smell of flowers by the window.

- Men tend to process information internally. While a woman will discuss her situation with friends, a man will privately think through his problems. Men tend to internalize rather than verbalize when seeking an answer. If he does discuss the situation, he wants answers not support. (Women learn quickly not to vent in front of a man if all they want is a sympathetic ear!)

- Because men normally do not discuss their problems, they use fewer words than women - by half! They tend to verbalize facts and opinions rather than feelings, too.

- Men focus better than women, who rely more on 'diffused awareness.' Once a man selects a course of action, little can distract him. While women multi-task with ease, men tend to focus on one thing at a time.

- Due to the amount of testosterone a man's brain receives before he is born, he cannot think both logically and emotionally at the same time. Thus, when a man offers a logical explanation, a woman's emotional reasoning simply doesn't compute. By the same token, when a man grows angry, rationalizing with him is nearly impossible.

- Men are not as emotionally expressive as their female counterparts. They are simply not wired in that manner.

- Last but not least, women seek to connect emotionally while men seek to connect... physically. The stirrings of love in a man come from physical attraction and contact first, emotional attachment second.

While all of that may appear to be stereotyping, it does provide a fundamental base for the male POV. Environment, background, and basic personality type also factor into the equation.

Armed with this knowledge, I found writing from a male perspective much easier. Book III of my series is mostly from the viewpoint of James, and while the trauma of his life added to the depth of his character, he was still fundamentally simple. It was refreshing to discard my women intuitions and interpretations and just deal with the basics.

I'd dare say it was almost liberating!

- Author & Professional Speaker, L. Diane Wolfe


  1. This article is right on time as I write from my MC (male) pov. I think women tend to make men more complex than they are, even in writing--- I know first hand how men think coming from a male dominate family who doesn't over analyze their situation with details or rely on the emotional side of their brains like women.


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