Your inner conversation, also known as self-talk, exerts more influence over your attitude, achievement, time, success, happiness, relationships, and overall prosperity than you can imagine. Self-talk is best defined as the thoughts and words you use to describe you and what you are doing.
Regardless of whether your inner conversation
remains in your head or is expressed out loud to others, there are seven
words that can hold you back. These words are: hard, difficult, tough,
impossible, can’t, try and never, and usually make an appearance when
referencing future actions, especially those related to adversity.
should you stop using these seven words? Aside from focusing on the
negative, they generate additional mental adversity to overcome and sow
seeds of doubt that prevent you from making a full commitment.
you occasionally find yourself saying, this is going to be hard,
writing is tough for me, or I will never finish this book? Is there some
blanket rule that says something will be hard, tough or difficult, or
that you will never get something done?
Have you ever heard a
coach tell their team a game will be tough, difficult or impossible to
win? Of course not. He or she would never plant such a thought virus
into the heads of their players.
When you approach the writing
and promotion of your book or plan to give a keynote speech, use
self-talk that affirms and supports what you are going to do. Thinking
and saying, I can do this, is a great example of affirmative self-talk
that opens pathways to producing your best effort.
now, you are probably wondering what I suggest you think and say in
place of the seven words you should drop from your self-talk vocabulary.
In my view, simply referring to a response or future action as a
challenge is preferable because it does not generate mental adversity.
An example of its use would be, writing this book is going to be a real
challenge. A statement that readies you for the path that lies ahead.
the midst of a crisis, intentionally referring to actions as challenges
might seem trivial, ridiculous, or uncomfortable at first. What you
will soon experience, however, is a
noticeable difference in the way you think and feel when using the word challenge in place of a more negative expression.
to intentions and actions as challenges sets the stage for mental
clarity, optimism, possibility thinking, inspired action, creativity,
and aha moments.
Establishing clear goals and intentions and then
crafting an inner conversation that supports them is crucial to making
self-talk your most important resource and greatest ally in achievement.
If you have trouble keeping the seven words I mentioned unsaid,
remember this sage advice from many a wise mother, if you can’t say
something positive, don’t say anything at all.
About the author:
J. Russ is an international bestselling author, an inspiring
speaker/trainer, and the founder of Zero Adversity Training. He is
intensely passionate about passing on practical concepts anyone can use
to craft a happy, fulfilling, productive, healthy, and well balanced
life. Russ is reachable for comments or questions via email at
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On the hottest day of the year in San Francisco in 1959, Private Detectives Sam and Amelia Slater are contemplating fleeing the city for their Stinson Beach house. However, when Sam decides to take a cable car ride to run some errands on the lazy summer day, he’s suddenly thrust into the spotlight when he rescues a woman who fell onto the busy street. Sam pulls the mysterious red haired woman out of the path of an oncoming cable car in the nick of time. The entire incident is captured by a newspaper photographer who splashes Sam’s heroics all over the front page. Sam is troubled not only by his new status as a city hero, but by the rescued woman’s plea for help. She whispers to Sam that she didn’t fall from the cable car but was pushed. She is frightened and disappears into the crowd before Sam can get more details. A San Francisco newspaper launches a campaign to find the mystery woman and Sam hopes to cross paths with her again.
Meanwhile, Amelia is troubled by the sudden disappearance of her elderly neighbor. Two thuggish younger men who now occupy the house next door say he took a sudden trip. One night when she’s alone Amelia grabs a flashlight and finds some disturbing clues in her neighbor’s garage. What really happened to her neighbor? Amelia is determined to find out. Award winning author Greg Messel spins a new tale of intrigue in Cable Car Mystery, the sixth book in the Sam Slater Mystery series set in at the 1950s in San Francisco.
Greg Messel has spent most of his adult life interested in writing, including a career in the newspaper business. He won a Wyoming Press Association Award as a columnist and has contributed articles to various magazines. Greg lives in Edmonds, Washington on Puget Sound with his wife Jean DeFond.
Greg has written nine novels. His latest is “Cable Car Mystery; which is the sixth in a series of mysteries set in 1959 San Francisco. For more information on Greg's other novels go to www.gregmessel.com.
Sunday, February 21, 2016
There is an ongoing controversy about the effect digital media has had and will have on printed books. Between 2008 and 2010, e-book sales soared, up 1,260 percent1, and publishing people predicted the demise of printed books in the near future. Borders declared bankruptcy in 2011, and many independent bookstores closed their doors. There were only 1,410 of them in 1,660 locations in America five years ago.2
Many articles bemoan and/or complain about the Amazon juggernaut’s domination of e-book sales, and some pundits are gloating that e-book sales have slowed, while independent booksellers are growing. In 2015, there were 1,712 stores in 2,227 locations.
This kerfuffle about who is selling what kind of books tends to disguise the fact that Americans are reading more than ever—on paper, smart phones, e-readers, tablets, and computers. The overall market for books is steadily increasing, and that’s good news for independent authors.
While most independent authors publish only e-books, they are missing entry into the expanding market for books in print. Here are a few things to consider.
Amazon is indispensable to independent authors. Not only does it promote the easy publication of e-books, it provides numerous tools, at very reasonable costs, to produce and market those e-books. Its CreateSpace program offers one-off digital printing of soft cover books at competitive prices. CreateSpace also converts printed books to e-books, which it markets for the author as well.
Recently introduced is the “Scout” program where Amazon offers unpublished, well-edited books for review by readers who may nominate the book for publication by Amazon in e-book and audio format. If Amazon selects the book, the author receives a reasonable, though not gaudy, financial reward and a five-year contract.
With the growth of independent booksellers who offer things Amazon cannot (like walking out of the store with a printed book under your arm), authors should begin a conversation with local booksellers about stocking their books and attending book signing sessions. Like most worthwhile things, it takes time and effort, but a good relationship with local book merchants is good marketing.
Here’s a lead on getting your book in a Fort Meyers, FL book store. Patti Brassard Jefferson, illustrator and author, has a bookstore, P.J. Boox, devoted exclusively to indie authors. The author rents display bookshelves for about $10 a month. When a book sells, the author receives almost the full retail price. Check it out at www.pjboox.com.
And, here’s the commercial. My latest novel is now under review at Amazon Scout. If you would like to see how the program works and nominate National Parks, go to https://kindlescout.amazon.com/p/LUUV47H6J21J . My other books are at www.frogworks.com.
Saturday, February 20, 2016
Living in different neighborhoods according to our color, tribe, or economic status makes us distant from the ones not in our league. We tend to think they are inferior, stupid or even ugly because they don’t have our dress, money or education.
I grew up in Johannesburg where clothing was western. In industrial Johannesburg, we lived with most South African tribes and we spoke most of their languages. What I did not know is that people in the city came from the rural areas where people wore their tribal clothing all the time. The tribal clothing in South Africa is very interesting because every tribe has their own tribal attire. In the city, we referred to clothing by brand name. Most European countries benefited from the lifestyle. Girls, for instance, knew when the shoe brand Saxone, from Scotland, had arrived at the store and before the week was over, that very expensive shoe would have been sold out. With that kind of a lifestyle, you tend to think that you are better than the tribal people who only wore their tribal traditional dress. Until my personal experience, I did not know that the tribal people also thought we were stupid and ugly because we did not dress like them.
My tribal education happened in the Cape, where I attended high school in rural Transkei. My friends and I from Johannesburg confronted tribal teenagers about their dress. We questioned them about their bare backs especially about not wearing bras. We thought they lived in the middle of nowhere where there were no foreigners and knew nothing about bras. We simply asked them why they did not wear bras. Their response taught us that living apart made people think the ones who were not like them were stupid and/or ugly. The girls simply told us that we were brainwashed by foreigners who made us wear bras that made our breasts not look as youthful as theirs. We were shocked that the uneducated rural girls thought they were better than us.
The girls’ response instilled a thirst to know more about the other tribes in South Africa. Because of my thorough research, I was able to write Different is not stupid or ugly that could be downloaded at http://www.epubbud.com/book.php?g=NKLYWJFV
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Friday, February 19, 2016
The speed with which the wheels are coming off of the global financial system is intensifying.
Financial Armageddon is not on the menu tomorrow, but this train has left the station, and it’s important that you stay ahead of it.
I wrote a short article a couple of days ago pointing out that there was a systematic effort to eliminate cash as money. I cited the efforts of the largest bank in Norway to eliminate cash altogether.
Here is a clip from that piece:
There is a major global effort to eliminate cash as a form of money and replace it with digital money – zeroes and ones.
One example: Norway’s biggest bank has called for the elimination of cash.
In case you thought this was simply the act of a group of pin-striped Norwegian bankers that had been on a weekend aquavit bender, think again.
In the last few years:
- “Italy made cash transactions over €1,000 illegal;
- Switzerland proposed banning cash payments in excess of 100,000 francs;
- Russia banned cash transactions over $10,000;
- Spain banned cash transactions over €2,500;
- Mexico made cash payments of more than 200,000 pesos illegal;
- Uruguay banned cash transactions over $5,000; and
- France made cash transactions over €1,000 illegal, down from the previous limit of €3,000.”
The “War on Drugs”, the “War on Poverty” and the “War on Terrorism have all been dismal failures. But make no mistake, the “War on Cash” that is being gestated here by bankers and governments has a clear path to victory.
I have also been writing to you about “Bail Ins”, the procedure whereby “troubled” banks confiscate deposits of some customers and convert them to stock in the bank.
The prior article informed you that the European Union had authorized Bail In procedures for all EU banks. A friend in Moscow just informed me that the Russian Ministry of Finance just authorized Bail Ins in Russia. (January 29, 2016)
Here are a couple of links to that story (but please note, they are in Russian and have to be translated with Google Translate if you want to read them – which I did.)
If you want solutions to this growing and precarious banking and financial scene, let me make a completely immodest recommendation.
Go to Amazon and buy and read The Coming Financial Crisis – A Look Behind the Wizard’s Curtain by yours truly. It is written to inform and empower the reader.
Keep your Powder Dry,
John Truman Wolfe